This topic came up a few times in the process of planning the wedding of my dreams. Growing up I always thought I should be the most beautiful I could be on my wedding. I thought I would diet like crazy, work out all the time, and do whatever it took to look perfect.
That was my train of thought as a early teen. I mentally moved passed most of my body image obsessions since, embraced myself for who I am, etc. However, once the conversation of “the dress” was brought up I found myself instantly going back to my old state of mind. I kept finding myself panicking that my arms wouldn’t look good in photos, that my stomach wasn’t flat enough for my dress, that I wasn’t going to look absolutely perfect on the big day. What the fuck was happening? I was falling for the same tricks I fell for growing up.
The wedding industry tells you that you should diet for your wedding, work out so your arms don’t look flabby, and even wear leg makeup?! It is just as bad as the fashion industry. I didn’t notice it because I am so used to seeing that stuff everyday in fashion magazines and on the internet. But once I finally figured this out, I got angry.
I will be completely honest with you, I don’t like being told what to do. 30% of the reason I didn’t lose weight for my wedding is to defy the wedding industry editors, I mean FUCK THEM telling me I should lose weight because I am not perfect the way I am. 60% of the reason I didn’t lose weight for my wedding was because I knew I wasn’t perfect, and that was ok with me. My fiance (oh shit HUSBAND), has always loved me the way I am, why would I change everything for one day? I am no longer the type to do fad diets for weight loss, I am more looking to lead a healthy lifestyle. 10% I was enjoying the engaged life! We celebrated so much, our families took us out, I drank a lot more than I usually do, and we just enjoyed the time.
Ok, so those are the reasons I didn’t lose weight for my wedding. Now we are on to the conclusion. Any regrets? Nope.
If you are getting married, and feel pressured to lose weight, think about it alone. Are you doing it for the right reasons? Are you doing it for other people? Are you doing it to lead a healthier lifestyle?
Please think hard about it, and don’t give in to what the world is telling you to do. Make a decision for you.