This topic came up a few times in the process of planning the wedding of my dreams. Growing up I always thought I should be the most beautiful I could be on my wedding. I thought I would diet like crazy, work out all the time, and do whatever it took to look perfect.
That was my train of thought as a early teen. I mentally moved passed most of my body image obsessions since, embraced myself for who I am, etc. However, once the conversation of “the dress” was brought up I found myself instantly going back to my old state of mind. I kept finding myself panicking that my arms wouldn’t look good in photos, that my stomach wasn’t flat enough for my dress, that I wasn’t going to look absolutely perfect on the big day. What the fuck was happening? I was falling for the same tricks I fell for growing up.
The wedding industry tells you that you should diet for your wedding, work out so your arms don’t look flabby, and even wear leg makeup?! It is just as bad as the fashion industry. I didn’t notice it because I am so used to seeing that stuff everyday in fashion magazines and on the internet. But once I finally figured this out, I got angry.
I will be completely honest with you, I don’t like being told what to do. 30% of the reason I didn’t lose weight for my wedding is to defy the wedding industry editors, I mean FUCK THEM telling me I should lose weight because I am not perfect the way I am. 60% of the reason I didn’t lose weight for my wedding was because I knew I wasn’t perfect, and that was ok with me. My fiance (oh shit HUSBAND), has always loved me the way I am, why would I change everything for one day? I am no longer the type to do fad diets for weight loss, I am more looking to lead a healthy lifestyle. 10% I was enjoying the engaged life! We celebrated so much, our families took us out, I drank a lot more than I usually do, and we just enjoyed the time.
Ok, so those are the reasons I didn’t lose weight for my wedding. Now we are on to the conclusion. Any regrets? Nope.
If you are getting married, and feel pressured to lose weight, think about it alone. Are you doing it for the right reasons? Are you doing it for other people? Are you doing it to lead a healthier lifestyle?
Please think hard about it, and don’t give in to what the world is telling you to do. Make a decision for you.
Woah. Cannot believe that is true!
I am currently reporting from the middle of a giant pile of paper flowers, tulle, and feathers. I cannot wait to share with you all that I did for my wedding. We did so much work, and still have much to do!
It is so surreal that the big day is so close. Everyone has been telling me to enjoy it and take it all in! I have been trying, but these past couple days I am just ready for it to come. Sure we have a lot of dumb things left to do, but I have been planning this day for so long and am so ready to be Kevin’s wife!
So this is me writing a blog post so I can remember how I felt today, and the days before the wedding. My to-do list is three pages long, my hands are tired from learning calligraphy (I don’t half-ass anything), and I am desperately trying not to touch my face so I don’t get a zit!
But honestly, I am so happy we planned the wedding the way we did. Everything we are doing is laid back, fun, and the food/drinks will be delicious. We stayed true to our style, and as long as it doesn’t rain everything will be perfect! :D
I know this post was all over the place but planning a wedding kind of makes you that way!
I love you all, and am so ready to come back to share the adventures I had planning and with work the past couple month!
SO MUCH LOVE