We are the problem, but also the solution.
Try to have a conversation with a woman where the issue of their weight/body image doesn’t come up. Try it! I dare you. I also double dog dare you not to talk about your weight with your family and friends the next two weeks.
Let me know how that goes.
My theory is that all women/girls are affected by the thoughts of other women/girls. ESPECIALLY ones they look up to, or admire for one thing or another. Let’s take me for example. I grew up wanting to be my best friend. She was blonde, thin, and got a lot of male attention. I was tall, chunky, and totally awkward (which equaled no male attention). Which looking back was kind of hilarious, especially when I thought boys loved it when you stalked them… (you know who you are, Jeff)… sorry
Being conscious about myself I think rooted from my first best friend who was again perfect in my eyes, but complained about her weight. Not only her but my mom always talked about trying a new diet. I am in NO way trying to blame them, this is how all women are raised. If their family didn’t do it their friends did, if their friends didn’t do it their enemies did. It has become the norm to criticize ourselves to feel accepted by our fellow kin.
Have you noticed when you come out and say “Yea, I gained two pounds over the holidays” your friend will reply with “OMG I know! I feel like I gained 10.” You both walk away feeling somewhat comforted, but your little sister listening in on the conversation will be traumatized. She will start to look at herself and wonder if she should be worried about her weight if her idol (big sister) is. After all she wants to be just like you.
We can be blinded of how influential we are. Please start opening your eyes to this.