I have recently been reading a lot of blog posts putting down thin, muscular, fat, or disabled women while pointing out that they (a thin, muscular, fat or disabled women are fighting to fit in). I am disgusted by it all.
Sometimes, when people stand up for their own physical appearance they decide to compare themselves to the opposite type of person. For example, when I first started my blog I thought it was curvy/overweight people against thin people. A comment from an early follower saying she was hurt when I said “real women have curves”, here I was a curvy girl my whole life always scrutinized for my weight and size. I thought that comment would be great for women to feel empowered and to help them realize they are perfect the way they are. Only to realize I was contributing to the hate that I experienced. This commenter told me she wished she was curvier but was super thin. That was the moment I realized I thought I was helping other girls feel more confident in their own skin, but I was alienating other women. That was not what I set out to do.
I was fighting for the type of girl who I thought was made fun of, and hated towards. I had no idea that thin girls got hateful comments too?! My mind was completely blown. I was so confused.
In all of my years of growing up, I thought thin girls were the enemy. How terrible is that?
It is very obvious to me now, that in order to see any change in “society” or to reign in the hateful comments all of us women have to stand up and fight against the internet trolls, or cruel comments. Whether we are fat, thin, muscular, or disabled, instead of pointing our fingers at the other we should just concentrate on stopping the hate. Can we join forces and be happy for one another?